How it works

Saying it is one thing. Here's how you actually do it.

No jargon, no legal reading required. Here's what you and your partner actually do, in order.

1

You agree, before anything's happened

You and your partner sit down before your first child arrives, while you're still equals, still on the same side, and the conversation is easy. You choose what share of combined income would go to whichever of you steps back to raise kids, and for how long. It's signed and formally registered.

2

It goes quiet

Once it's signed, nothing happens. No payments, no check-ins, nothing to think about. It sits there for the whole relationship, like a seatbelt: there in case you need it, invisible if you don't.

3

If you separate, it switches on by itself

No negotiation. No court process for income. No arguing about money on top of everything else. The terms were agreed back when you liked each other, not renegotiated in the middle of a separation. The money moves through the platform, not between the two of you.

4

Income is checked automatically, every month

Verified directly against real ATO payroll data, the same system your employer already reports to. Nobody has to produce payslips or prove anything to anyone.

5

Payments happen on their own

Money is split and paid automatically each month, calculated off the verified income. It doesn't depend on a bank mandate someone could cancel. Nobody chases it, nobody has to ask, and nobody decides whether to pay. It just happens.

How the money moves

Split before it's anyone's to hold.

Primary earner's income verified monthly Primary caregiver's income verified monthly ForBothOfUs combines it, then splits it Paid to primary earner Paid to primary caregiver both, at the same time

Neither of you has to manage this, month to month. It just happens, the same way your pay already does.

What it's built on

Not a new legal system. Existing tools, used differently.

Nothing about this required new law to be written. It uses instruments that already exist, just applied to a problem nobody had pointed them at yet.

The agreement

A Binding Financial Agreement under the Family Law Act, the same legal category couples already use to agree how property is split if they separate. This uses it for income instead.

The verification

ATO Single Touch Payroll, the system your employer already reports your pay to every time you're paid. It confirms real income automatically, monthly, with nothing to submit or dispute.

Not frozen. Alive.

A prenup is a guess. This isn't.

A prenup sets a number once and freezes it. ForBothOfUs recalculates every month, based on what you're both actually earning.

It doesn't just recalculate the number. It recalculates who's who. A standard agreement locks in who's the earner and who's the caregiver the moment it's signed, so if your roles ever reverse, you're back to renegotiating everything from scratch. ForBothOfUs checks who's actually earning what, every month, for as long as the agreement is active. If you swap roles, on purpose or just because life goes that way, the split follows you automatically. Neither of you is locked into being the primary earner forever.

Primary earner Primary caregiver Total (combined) $0 $50k $100k $150k $200k Signed First child Promotion Redundancy Today

Two real incomes, added together, checked every month. The total moves because life does, and neither of you has to guess what it'll be in five years.

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